If fate doesn’t make you laugh, then you don’t get the joke

Bones – Season 6 – Episode 9 – “Adelbert Ames, Jr.”

This was one of the best episode of Bones ever. There was less of forensic investigation but more about the emotional turbulence for Dr.Temperence Bones. The conversations between Bones and Micah were absolutely brilliant. Micah tells Bones about an experiment he heard about in a lecture, in which a scientist gives a subject glasses that make the subject see upside down, but after three days, with the glasses still on, the world rights itself (and when the glasses are taken off, the world looks upside down again – for three days).

Adelbert Ames, Jr did these experiments in early 19th century. This just goes to prove that perception is not an absolute thing. The subjects initially have a perception of the normal world. They are given glasses which shows them the upside world but in just 3 days, Human brain defines itself a new perception of the world and convinces itself that the world being viewed now is the new ‘normal’. In just 3 days, The subjects feel normal seeing the upside down world. He doesn’t feel that he is seeing the upside down version of the normal world. When the glasses are taken off after few days. The originally upright world now appears upside down to the subjects. The mind again takes just 3 days to get back to normal.

For Bones, ‘Love’ is the glasses that turns her world upside down. When suddenly she realises that She had loved Seeley all along, Her world turns upside down. She tries to come into terms with that and even expresses herself only to realize that she has lost her chance. The is again like taking off the glasses. The same life which appeared normal before appears upside down now due to the rejection. She tells herself that she can adjust. I believe that’s what everybody does. End of the day its all in the mind. Some ppl are strong enough to convince their mind and move on. Some weak-minded people cannot convince their mind to move on. It’s not easy to let go of a person but you just need to convince your brain that ‘All izz well’. Having been through this phase I know that it’s easier said than done. Sometimes fate throws at us some cruel jokes, Despite best efforts we cannot come up with a story to convince our brain. Unfortunately, Some people change drastically and some dramatic events over a small period of time turns your life upside down. Life as you know ceases to exist. Being as filmy as I am, I came up with a convincing story for myself, I could only come up with one rational explanation which would explain the events that happened in my life. I convinced myself that sometimes a person need to go away only cause they love you too much and they are leaving you only to keep you away from the pain. A scenario like in the story, The girl is terminally ill and she leaves the boy without telling anything to save him from a lifetime of sadness.

Anyway, Everybody has their own way of handling the pain. With some people, Pain is possessed in the mind which can heal with time and overcome with determination. With some people this pain possesses the mind itself and they would need some professional help. I am coming in terms with my pain in my own way. Trying to believe that everything happens for a reason,  Maybe it’s because I look at everything as a lesson, or I don’t want to walk around angry. Or maybe it’s because I finally understand.There are things we don’t want to happen, but have to accept;things we don’t want to know, but have to learn, and people we can’t live without, but have to let go.